Hi, that’s an honest question!
I had a similar question from my ailing hospice 90-year-old mother several
years ago which I answered with the following points:
Christianity doesn’t teach that God looks for reasons to send good people
away, but Scripture says God’s standard is His own perfect character –
complete love, justice, and truth (Romans 3:23). By that measure, all of us
fall short!
Hell, in the Christian understanding, is not mainly about God eagerly
punishing people. It is the result of rejecting the very source of life and
goodness. Jesus described it as separation (Matthew 25:46). If God is the
source of life and goodness, choosing independence from Him ultimately
means separation from these things.
The Bible also says God is not eager for anyone to be lost (2 Peter 3:9).
That’s why the heart of Christianity is not “try harder”, but grace: “God so
loved the world that He gave His only Son, that whosoever believes in Him
should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send His Son into
the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved
through Him.” (John 3:16-17).
I asked her if she had any questions; she recognized she didn’t have much
longer time here and asked how she could do this to be sure she was
ready to go to heaven.